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Jon Gold, M.A | Go 4 Gold

“New Year, New Me”

Every December 31st we hear about new year’s resolutions. The gyms get swamped, individuals set lofty outcome goals, people start dieting, etc. People wait until the new year because of the day itself:  “It’s a new year so it’s a great time to start!” Why do we wait until the new year or a Monday or after the holidays you ask? Well its simple really. 

The mind is programed to think relationally and to create logic out of all things – it is a protective muscle and tissue that puts matters into equations and solves problems. The problem is, humans are not problems… 

The first problem with new year’s resolutions is that they are goals and not values.

Goals are oftentimes destinations, fixed markers without true intrinsic values and purpose. Look at the example of wanting to lose weight. I will lose weight (20lbs) by dieting and exercise starting on 01/01/2022 vs. I will live a life of commitment to my physical health. One is a continuous journey with purpose and connection to something that matters while one is just an arbitrary milestone to reach. 

The second problem with new year’s resolutions is that it plays into the mind controlling our actions. In the above example, If you want to lose weight, know why it matters to lose weight and find fulfillment in the day to day actions rather than staring at the scale. Yes you may be 20 lbs lighter, but this will only lead to a fleeting feeling of temporary accomplishment. This type of thinking and action oftentimes leads to the thoughts of “now what.” After all the hard work and sacrifice there is nothing more than just that, a temporary feeling of achievement. Wouldn’t it be nice if there were something more? 

There is. The joy and sense of accomplishment is everlasting when you stay consistent with something personally fulfilling and meaningful. When it relates to living your best authentic life there Is less likelihood of delaying action. You will be intrinsically (internally) motivated and won’t require a new year, a new week, or a new day to get started because why delay living a life connected to the valuable areas in your life when you can do it right now.

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Be well,

Jon Gold

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