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Jon Gold, M.A | Go 4 Gold

In planning for this week’s blog, and really since posting the most recent blog, I have felt unsure of what to write. At moments I felt like I needed to know the topic and I felt myself applying pressure to myself  in trying to force myself to write something valuable and spectacular. This morning it hit me… I don’t have to know…  That’s it!

Think about it, we always hear the phrase “if you’re the smartest person in the room you are in the wrong room.” If we break down this quote, we are encouraged to be unsure about things – it means we have things to learn, that there is room to grow, and that sometimes we won’t have all the answers. Being unsure may sound scary, but its rather empowering if we embrace seeking clarity with the proper attitude.

Coaches, when a player asks you a question and you don’t know the answer that’s a moment of connectedness. You both are on the same page in that you both don’t know the answer to the question.  Choose curiosity. A coaches ability to be humble and human enough to tell a player that they don’t know (but that they will seek out the solution) is an opportunity and example of displaying care and commitment to the player and team. It’s a relationship builder. This wouldn’t happen if there wasn’t the initial stage of not knowing. 

Players you not knowing the answer to something means you can improve. Ask for help. BE CURIOUS. 

We can’t know everything. If anything is impossible in this world, to me, it is being all knowing of all things. Clarity comes from knowing, so oftentimes we can become judgmental and/or stressed when there is an abundance of uncertainty, however, when we tackle the not knowing with openness, a beginners mind, and a desire to learn (curiosity) we can find clarity and answer questions in a graceful manner. 

Challenge: When you don’t know something, be honest and true to yourself. Hold yourself accountable and say “I am unsure about this.” Why fake it when you can choose to improve and find clarity. Go seek that out with curiosity. 

“We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.” once said by the legendary Walt Disney.

Be well,

Jon Gold

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